Self-Esteem, Part 4

Self-Esteem, Part 4

So far we have covered 5 of the 7 steps for building healthy self esteem.

  1. Recognize that you are special and unique just the way you are
  2. Reject the idea that you are in competition with others
  3. Recognize that your self-worth is innate
  4. Accept 100 percent responsibility for your actions and decisions
  5. Appreciate that mistakes are stepping stones to achievement

Previous Posts: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

Let’s finish up the list.

The sixth step for building healthy and strong self-esteem is to realize that life is a journey to be embraced one day at a time. When you have a healthy self-esteem you plan for the future and set goals, but you pay attention and live in the now. See, too much focus on the future…good or bad…comes from a fear of not being in control of what will happen. You may fear that the worst might happen, or you fear that you won’t be able to do what needs to be done to make the best happen. And those fears become your decision drivers. It’s okay to have goals and prepare for what’s ahead but not at the loss of being present with those with you today. We’re not living in the moment when we are sad, anxious and depressed about what has happened, what could happen or what might not happen. It’s important to set goals and know where you are going, but live in the now. Right now is the only place happiness can be found.

Finally, the seventh step is to recognize that praise pays even when things aren’t going well. Writing down your wins at the end of each day keeps your focus in the right direction. Mistakes can only turn into wins when you can articulate how you used that opportunity to grow and learn. Praise can be shared with others as well. Appreciation and gratitude given to others also pay dividends in self-esteem. You can be encouraged and feel good about the positive impact you can have on others. Living in the moment and taking responsibility for your actions, praising others and celebrating all wins are all great easy to use praise to build healthy self-esteem.

A healthy self-esteem acts like a psychological immune system, making it possible for the things that previously would have ruined us to be shielded by confidence. Instead, objectivity can be used to sift through comments to make sure that what’s valuable for growth and improvement is heard while the comments that cause us to doubt our selves are kept at bay.

Now, what do you do with these 7 steps? Read through them everyday. Choose one specific one to put into practice each day without neglecting the others. See the impact that these changes can make over the next month. Everyone wins when each of us grows our esteem. We cannot depend upon others to build our self-esteem. Their efforts must pass through us, and if we don’t believe in ourselves then their words fall on deaf ears. Each of us must do the personal work to believe that we are able to handle the unexpected things that life throws our way and that we feel worthy of happiness.  Here are the steps again:

  1. Recognize that you are special and unique just the way you are
  2. Reject the idea that you are in competition with others
  3. Recognize that your self-worth is innate
  4. Accept 100 percent responsibility for your actions and decisions
  5. Appreciate that mistakes are stepping stones to achievement
  6. Realize that life is a journey to be embraced one day at a time
  7. Praise pays even when things aren’t going well.

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